Chat Transcripts

Topic

Chat Session 3

Date

2024-04-17

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0

Course ID

279568

User List

Amos, HeatherBurfield, SheilaHermann, RebeccaKrell, VeronicaOgdahl, Tonya{Oveson, Tammy}
User Timestamp Message
{Oveson, Tammy}06:56:10 pmhi Heather!
Amos, Heather06:56:19 pmHello!
{Oveson, Tammy}06:57:14 pmHi Rebecca and Tonya!
Ogdahl, Tonya06:57:18 pmHello Everyone!!
Hermann, Rebecca06:57:30 pmGood Evening!
{Oveson, Tammy}06:57:42 pmhi Veronica!
Krell, Veronica06:57:44 pmHello!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:00:31 pmHappy Wednesday! How are you all this evening?
Amos, Heather07:00:47 pmExhausted but excited for our chat.
Ogdahl, Tonya07:00:50 pmGreat!!
Krell, Veronica07:00:56 pmGreat! How are you?
Hermann, Rebecca07:01:08 pmNot too bad. Despite the rain, its been so nice to be outside.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:01:48 pmi'm good. It was a BUSY day but I survived
{Oveson, Tammy}07:02:00 pmagreed REbecca!
Burfield, Sheila07:02:00 pmHello All!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:02:07 pmhi Sheila!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:02:39 pmFANTASTIC job on the discussion board this week! Seriously, WAY TO GO!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:03:38 pmany questions before we get started?
Ogdahl, Tonya07:03:42 pmnope!
Krell, Veronica07:03:46 pmNone
Hermann, Rebecca07:03:59 pmNone 🙂
Burfield, Sheila07:03:56 pmI have none:)
{Oveson, Tammy}07:04:23 pmThis week we talked about parenting styles. How are parenting styles defined?
Burfield, Sheila07:05:26 pmdifferent practices and beliefs that parents have in how they raise their children
Ogdahl, Tonya07:05:32 pmA pattern of behaviors that a parent uses at home with children and other adults.
Krell, Veronica07:05:49 pmIt is defined by how responsive, unresponsive parents are.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:06:10 pmSheila yes!
Hermann, Rebecca07:06:26 pmHow they respond to their children at home.
Amos, Heather07:06:40 pmBehaviors and attitudes that inlfeunce how parents interact with children
{Oveson, Tammy}07:06:42 pmExactly!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:07:01 pm● Parenting styles are evaluated on two dimensions. Discuss each one: o degree of responsiveness o degree of demandingness
Ogdahl, Tonya07:08:31 pmIs zero responsiveness mean very strict with little consideration of how the others feel?
Krell, Veronica07:08:34 pmI think that with responsiveness the child can be heard and understood. Demandingness they are not heard and just have to obey or follow and not understand the reasons of why something is asked
Burfield, Sheila07:08:35 pmresponsiveness is how parents react to a child's needs and demands, demandingness is their level of expectation for better behavior
Amos, Heather07:09:35 pmZero responsiveness can be neglecting or ignoring a child's feelings and care
{Oveson, Tammy}07:09:45 pmbasically, it's the degree to which a parent is responsive to a child's needs.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:10:07 pmdemandingness is the lebel of control and expectations a parent has for a child
{Oveson, Tammy}07:10:16 pmHeather yes exactly
Burfield, Sheila07:10:32 pmI think parent can be demanding and responsive at the same time, they can demand a high level of behavior but be very caring in how they relay their expectations
Amos, Heather07:10:42 pmDemandingness is rules and expectaions that parents have for their children and their response when children meet or fail to meet expectations
{Oveson, Tammy}07:10:45 pmagreed Sheila
Krell, Veronica07:10:57 pmI like that Sheila
Ogdahl, Tonya07:11:09 pmI do too Sheila!
Amos, Heather07:11:21 pmGreat way to put it, Sheila!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:12:07 pmLet's talk about the 4 parent styles: authoritarian, authoritative, uninvolved, and permissive
Hermann, Rebecca07:12:30 pmThe discipline and punishment approach and how they monitor behavior.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:12:44 pm● The four parenting styles are described in this week’s lecture. Discuss the differences among all four. How does each style impact a child’s relationship within their family and with others?
Ogdahl, Tonya07:14:33 pmThe 4 are all so completely different but also gives us some insight on why maybe we see behaviors from the children.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:15:01 pm(this is on page 5 of the power point lecture from this week)
{Oveson, Tammy}07:15:17 pmTonya so true!
Amos, Heather07:15:30 pmAuthoritarian is when a parent is super strict and even can be severe in their parenting and setting up boundaries. This can involve harsh punishment and create fear in the child for what will happen when they disobey. Authoritative is establishing that the parent or caregiver is in a position to create rules and boundaries that are clear but they are not overly strict in their implementation. Uninvolved is when a parent is not emotionally and or physically present and engaging with a child. Permissive is the lack of boundaries and counsequences for actions.
Burfield, Sheila07:15:44 pmAthoritarian has the parent in complete control with no/little sensitivity to the child's needs, Authoritative - the parents have high expectations and also a calm and loving way of communicating them to the child, Permissive - very caring and loving but not much for rules and expecattaions, Uninvolved - children are left to their own devices and parenets pay litle attenditon. Each style impacts how a child is going to react to the parent or how the child will even behave initially
Hermann, Rebecca07:16:01 pmAuthoritarian is the most strict vs. Uninvolved, which there is no structure.
Krell, Veronica07:16:13 pmUninvolved and permissive I think children do have any boundaries and can really struggle in life.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:16:28 pmSheila YES!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:16:51 pmHeather perfect!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:17:13 pmright Rebecca
{Oveson, Tammy}07:17:23 pmI SO agree Veronica!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:18:04 pm● Discuss the two dimensions called responsiveness and demandingness in relation to each of the 4 parenting styles: o High or low on Responsiveness? o High or Low on Demandingness?
Amos, Heather07:18:45 pmAuthoritarian can create stress and fear when rules and boundaries are tested. This can create fear of disappoitment and a fear of authority in the future. Authoritative can teach respect and proper boundaries in relationship and help a childto establish boundaries for themselves in future relationships and even in a school setting. If a child is raised in an enviornment where the parents are uninvolved this can lead to emotional stress and fear of how their needs will be met or even feeling that they can't count on anyone and have to do everything for themselves. If someone is raised in a permissive environment they may struggle when in environments where there are specific boundaries and have a lack of respect for those who try to implement these things.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:20:00 pmHeather such great points! The parenting styles we are raised in have a profound affect on our whole lives
Burfield, Sheila07:20:25 pmAuthoritarian and Authoritative are high in demandingness, Permisisve and Uninvolved are low in demandingness. Authritative and Permissive are high in responsiveness, Authoritarian and Univovled are low in responsiveness.
Burfield, Sheila07:20:38 pmWell said Heather!
Ogdahl, Tonya07:20:54 pmAuthoritative would be high demandingness and low responsiveness
Krell, Veronica07:21:11 pmI think too much of any can cause stress on the child. To high of expectations versus to low of expectations. Children can either conform or rebel.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:21:13 pmCorrect Sheila
Hermann, Rebecca07:21:16 pmDemandingness and Responsiveness are both high in authoritative parenting. A child's view is respected.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:21:24 pmVeronica I agree
Ogdahl, Tonya07:21:33 pmsame with the Authoritarian
Burfield, Sheila07:21:48 pmTonya do you mean high in responsiveness too? I thought that's what I read in the lecture
Ogdahl, Tonya07:22:04 pmyes
Ogdahl, Tonya07:22:26 pmI meant high
{Oveson, Tammy}07:23:18 pmIn the power point there were some brief case studies. I'll copy and paste here.....
Ogdahl, Tonya07:23:34 pmI think I'm confusing myself now haha!
Burfield, Sheila07:23:51 pmI don't blame you Tonya, class after a long workday;)
Amos, Heather07:24:19 pmI understand that feeling, Tonya.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:24:27 pmFeel free to pick and choose between these:
{Oveson, Tammy}07:24:31 pm1. It is bedtime and your toddler does not want to go to bed. 2. Your child broke a favorite toy. 3. Your preschooler's room is a mess. 4. It is time for your child to eat dinner, but he/she is in the middle of building a tower and wants to finish building it first. 5. Your preschooler had a friend over to play and they had a number of conflicts, fighting over toys and how to play their games. 6. Your toddler insists on putting on her own shirt and shoes but it takes her a long time and is making you late for work.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:24:42 pmTonya no worries! They're confusing!
Ogdahl, Tonya07:25:11 pm🙂
{Oveson, Tammy}07:25:12 pm● Discuss the case study situations and how each parenting style might react to the child in the situation. How is this exercise helpful to you as a child care provider?
{Oveson, Tammy}07:27:14 pmJust tell us the number of the case study you want to comment on and tell us what the different parenting styles would do
Krell, Veronica07:27:49 pmI gravitate to the toddler wanting to put on their own shirt and shoes and it makes parents late for work. We have a couple of these moms that give their child the space and time to do this and it makes their children come in very accomplished. I see that a lot with them choosing their outfits. You can definitely tell when this happens, but it starts their day with having some control and making decisions that are acceptable to them and to the parent.
Burfield, Sheila07:28:30 pm#6 Authoritarian would likely yell, force the child to get dressed. Authoritative, give the child a few minutes and gently insist the the parent help. Permissive would allow the child to finish and possibly be late for work. Uninvolved, same but maybe wouldn't even have the child get dressed.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:28:32 pmVeronica YES I see that a lot too
{Oveson, Tammy}07:28:59 pmSheila excelllent description!
Ogdahl, Tonya07:29:44 pmI was actually choosing that one to. I feel if it was me I would problem solve this with them so I wouldn't be late but still giving them their independence.
Krell, Veronica07:30:00 pmWe have a lot that come in pajamas and then the parents bring in clothes for us to dress them as they could not get them to get dressed..
{Oveson, Tammy}07:30:18 pmTonya so that's probably authoritative, right?
{Oveson, Tammy}07:30:37 pmVeronica that's great you're willing to do that for them
Burfield, Sheila07:30:38 pmProblems solving! I like that Tonya!
Ogdahl, Tonya07:30:43 pmyes that would def be my style. I would pick out there outfits with them the night before I would get them up a few min early if that's what I need to do.
Ogdahl, Tonya07:31:10 pmLets start the day on a positive note!
Krell, Veronica07:31:25 pmFor sure Tonya!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:31:36 pmI love that Tonya!
Hermann, Rebecca07:32:39 pmIn the classroom, I know there are many times when a child is told to clean up because we are moving on to something else, but they want to finish what they started. Authoritarian would get upset and make them clean, Authoritative would give them the option of coming back to it later.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:33:09 pmRight Rebecca!
Amos, Heather07:33:17 pm#3 An authoritarian parent might react harshly to a child with a messy room with yelling or consequences that are not adequate for the situation. I relate to this a lot. My father was an authoritarian, and I was the child with the messy room, and often my things were thrown out or taken away no matter their value without giving me enough time or chances to properly clean the room. An authoritative parent would be firm that the room must be clean and perhaps do something like not allowing any screen time until the room was clean. A permissive parent would probably not address the room situation, or perhaps they would ask for the room to be cleaned but not follow up with any specifics or consequences. They might end up doing the cleaning themselves. An uninvolved parent might not even notice the room or even take the time to address the issues. They could just assume the child can motivate themselves to clean or be so distant or detached they don't even notice the issue.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:33:22 pm● Which parenting styles have the best and poorest outcomes for children? Why?
{Oveson, Tammy}07:33:53 pmHeather fantastic!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:37:38 pm-
Hermann, Rebecca07:37:49 pmAuthoritative parenting has the best outcome. Children are more stable, social, do very well in school and are supported by their families. Children from permissive or uninvolved parents are less social, withdrawn and may lack self-control.
Ogdahl, Tonya07:37:51 pmBest would be Authoritative because you are communicating with the child and problem solving together. When children feel they are getting a say they are more willing to listen and help. and least I would say is the neglectful however permissive and Authoritarian would not be the best choice either. They are not allowing any compromising or problem solving at all.and neglect is neglect. .
Burfield, Sheila07:37:55 pmAuthoritative will be the best case scenario for children because the parent has rules and expectations and also sensitivity to the child's needs and feelings. Permissive could also have a fairly good outcome for kids, my sister in law leans that direction and though she is a bit wishy washy on the rules, my nephew and niece are cared for very well, loved, respected, and safe. Authoritarian and uninvolved parents can alienate their children at times and may have difficulty communicating and building relationships with them
Burfield, Sheila07:38:32 pmHeather I love your explanation of the case study - thank you!
Krell, Veronica07:38:47 pmAuthoritarian is harsh but I think permissive and uninvolve are the worst for children to grow up in. It may create no boundaries and making some really bad decisions in life. Authoritarian may cause fear, and isolation. Authoritative can help their children grow to feel there are boundaries and respect.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:39:25 pmYou all have such a great undestanding of parenting styles!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:39:27 pm● What are the benefits of the positive parenting approach?
Burfield, Sheila07:39:37 pmVeronica good point about permissiveness, I can see how that could happen
{Oveson, Tammy}07:41:00 pmSo I don't forget, tonya let me know that those links inthe syllabus for the surveys you need form the final assignment don't work, I'll find the correct ones and email them to you all tomorrow
Ogdahl, Tonya07:41:31 pmChildren do better in childcare and school they have fewer behavioral issues, they build relationships
{Oveson, Tammy}07:42:06 pmTonya YES!!!!!!!!!!!
Burfield, Sheila07:42:16 pmChildren generally will have good bonds with parents, have higher self-esteem, able to make relationships iwth others, better behavior, able to focus in school
Krell, Veronica07:42:39 pmPositive parenting approach can help a child gain empathy.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:42:41 pmSheila EXACTLY
{Oveson, Tammy}07:42:51 pmVeronica definitely!
Krell, Veronica07:43:05 pmI agree with Sheila and Tonya
Hermann, Rebecca07:43:29 pmTrust is built through positive parenting.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:43:47 pmRebecca absolutely!
Amos, Heather07:43:55 pmPositive parenting can help children better process their emotions, have higher self esteem, and help them build healthier relationships outside of their family.
{Oveson, Tammy}07:44:14 pmHeather absolutely!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:44:36 pmYIKES! our time is up already! Have a great night everyone!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:44:54 pmThank you all for your hard work!
Krell, Veronica07:45:00 pmYou too!
Ogdahl, Tonya07:45:00 pmWOW!! it went really fast! Have a great week everyone!
Amos, Heather07:45:16 pmGoodnight, everyone! Thanks for all of the great insight and feedback.
Burfield, Sheila07:45:22 pmThis was a great chat! Thank you all and have a great week!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:45:52 pmIt sure did Tonya!
{Oveson, Tammy}07:46:05 pmEnjoy the rest of your week, everyone!
Hermann, Rebecca07:46:30 pmGood Night!